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Life (for me) ALWAYS goes as planned….Was that Plan A or B?

November 17, 2014 by Cindi Ferrini

When you’re young, you think you have it all figured out – that everything will go just as planned! As a planner, I love when life allows me to live according to my Plan A….but the reality is:

I live in Plan B!

While Plan A is fun to plan, there is adventure and even (at times) excitement when one allows God to orchestrate a different plan that our own…thus…Plan B!

It’s hard for most of us to live in Plan B – primarily because we like things our own way. After all, when we take the time, energy, and sometimes even finances to plan something, it’s nice when it works out. But the problem is this: life seldom turns out like we planned or hoped.

There might beLife (for me) ALWAYS goes as planned….Was that Plan A or B?

  • The postponed vacation because the house needed repairs
  • The interview and dream job that the competition gets
  • The school play director that overlooks your talent
  • A special needs child
  • A failed relationship
  • Disappointment
  • Discouragement
  • Depression (sometimes)

But, if we are open to Plan B, we might exchange ordinary living into something quite exciting! And perhaps our deep disappointments will be transformed into something extraordinary!

No doubt it was shocking and initially disappointing to realize our son would have special needs, but when you fast forward through the diagnosis, the therapies, the doctors, the family  issues, the plans that didn’t go as planned…to 33 years later, well….we’ve learned a lot about life!

We’ve developed rich relationships, much patience, endured many late nights, etc. and through all the challenges we began to see the beauty and reality of God’s wonderful Plan B. We’ve become:

More patient (not perfect!)

  • More focused on others than ourselves
  • More willing to serve – not just when it’s convenient, comfortable and easy, but whenever it’s needed (24/7) and whenever we know it’s the right thing to do
  • Friends with some wonderful people who share our journey
  • Survivors who’ve lived to tell about it and can help and encourage others

Eventually we learn that Plan A wasn’t as good as Plan B anyways! God can work in and through a life from the challenges of Plan A to a point of celebration in Plan B – soaring above any of the roadblocks we think there are.

We have. You can, too!

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Cindi Ferrini

Joe and Cindi have been married since 1979, have 3 grown children, grandchildren, and enjoy speaking together on topics of marriage, parenting (including special needs), leadership, and time and life management. They have written articles and blogs for Focus on the Family, FamilyLife, Family Matters, and others. Together they authored: Unexpected Journey - When Special Needs Change our Course. Cindi has written time management and organizational materials as well. They LOVE what they GET to do....
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